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(Disclaimer: I am a doctor of ABSOLUTELY nothing but common sense.)
I was reading this article "Do You Suffer From Bitchy Resting Face?" via Instapundit.
And I had just been on the subway thinking to myself-GAWD most women that I see look like they are scowling.
With young women, it's the bitchy/cool/piss off/I'm too good for you look, but with older women it's an unfriendly scowl unhelped by gravity-lines on the outside of the mouth, that start to drag the mouth downwards.
YIKES!
So for women-and this is for all women, not just single ladies. Please stop looking like such completely nasty, unfriendly bitches. You have to make a concerted effort-some of you-to stop scowling. In other words-put a happy face on, even put a SEMI HAPPY face on and people will interact with you differently.
I think in the Manosphere they call this the "bitch shield" and yah-that is pretty accurate.
I would advise men to totally stay away from these women and ignore the bitch shield-or have teflon skin and try to break the shield with honest to goodness flirting and don't get discouraged if the shield does't drop. Their loss, really.
So men. Let's talk.
Please up your game in a few ways.
Dress in nice clothes that are not grungy.
Try not to be fat.
Wear clothes that fit.
Don't do the BABY FACE BABY OIL SHINY face thing. You are shaving TOO CLOSE. I mean it.
Don't wear flip flops during the work week or at pubs. Look at other men who look polished and see how they are putting themselves together.
Get a proper hair cut. Bald is fine, don't do the long-hair-bald thing (the "ponus").
It's OK to make eye contact with women. Let them be the ones to look away.
It's OK to smile at women, let them feel 'embarassed' or flattered or whatever, let the chips fall where they may.
Talk to women strangers.
I remember watching this Dennis Prager video on the diference between men and women.
FLESH is a biggie for men-the biggest probably (watch the video), and Prager says that he does't really know if there is an equivalent in women.
Well, I would tell Dennis Prager that I think there is: feeling desired and beautiful/appreciated.
There is a part of a woman's brain that responds instantly (just like flesh for men) when we feel that click.
It's literally in our brains-we are hard wired for it.
Ask any woman you know.
I suspect that in some women-it's on overdrive and that's how they turn into obsessive bunny boilers and feel so despondent because of whatever some guy does to them-they go kind of mental. Best to avoid these women altogether at the first sign of obsessive behaviour fo course.
If a woman picks up on the "hey-I'd hit that" vibe (and BE SUBTLE, not IN YOUR FACE), then you are in good shape.
Thus: start with women that you are TOTALLY not interested in-just to test the waters. You have nothing to lose.
Then make more frequent attempts with women that you find attractive, and then even the ones that you think you have a good shot at getting turned down by.
WHY?
I think people are starved for more human contact and flirty banter.
Don't be afraid to flop on your face.
Talk to strangers because it's fun, not just for prowling or sexual/companionship purposes.
EXAMPLE:
A few weeks ago, I was walking with a female colleauge and we saw a nice looking older gentleman-maybe 65 or so with his gorgeous little chunky baby grandson, a little red head. The grandfather looked like he was busting a gut with pride as he put a little blanky on his grandson because it was windy.
It was a CUTE ATTACK and my female colleague and I were both like AWWWWW.
As we walked by, I said to him "oh-how completely and utterly adorable".
He said "why thanks".
And I said "yeah, and the kids is pretty cute also".
And he blushed and said WELL THANK YOU.
Was I trying to get the grandfather's phone number-no!
But it was fun and my colleague had a good laugh also.
I flop-and flop hard at times. But up I go. That's how I roll.
I'm also not soliciting Wing Woman jobs or anything.
I just wish people would relax and have a little more fun.
So to conclude: ladies please cut the bitchy face routine it's soooooooooo awful and boring and such a turnoff.
And men-you have your marching orders too.
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