Depressing but accurate.
Via Instapundit.
What would we do without research?
Seriously though-I see this ALL THE TIME.
Ugh.
"Unfortunately in the last century many American men abandoned honest
courtship and began exploiting a gaping weakness in the companionate
system. Encouraged by the media of film, music and television, they
increased their short-term chances of successfully finding a
heterosexual partner by pretending to be emotionally compatible. In a
society that praises living for the moment, being disingenuous gradually
became an accepted technique of dating for many men."
(I would say it's more like they have to pretend to be women on some level. For example, see the excruicating and tear-filled "I not only married my lover, I married my best friend "wedding speeches..". Those usually end in divorce after a few years.)
"After the thrill of the physical part of the relationship fades, many
women discover they have bonded with a compliant wimp who observes the
letter of the marriage or cohabitation and secretly years for just a
little peace from a woman of clashing temperaments and few if any shared
interests or goals. These
hen-pecked men will kindle a simmering resentment from living with an
incompatible mate, but rarely openly voice their true feelings."
"They will attempt to find opportunities to covertly do the things they
really like such as hiding out in their "man caves" or volunteering for
business trips so they can find a quiet refuge where they can eat pork
rinds and corn nuts and watch their beloved ESPN in peace. Eventually
many women discover that their one time Prince Charming has no core
beliefs besides pleasing her. These wives and girlfriends will lose all
respect for their spineless men who stand for nothing. Then the magic of
the marriage or cohabitation will be over."
