What would we do without research??
The advice given to those who are looks challenged is: “Work harder and prepare more."
That's good advice.
But I would add a few other bits to it.
First of all, be fit and not fat. You will feel better and look better.
Always, but always, make sure you are well dressed and well groomed.
Do not be the person who wishes they had taken more time at home to get ready.
I mean it.
A few weeks ago, I ran into someone that I hadn't seen in 20 years or so-a female.
In fact, had she not called out my name I wouldn't have recognized her and just carried along on my way.
Not to sound catty, but she looked like a bit of a shlumpf. No make up, sweat pants.
Don't be that person.
At my daughter's school they have this thing, that if you are in a crappy mood, you wear all grey.
Grey shirt, grey sweats, grey socks whatever.
This grey outfit is called The Groufit".
WEAR NOT THE GROUTFIT.
If you don't know about grooming and what looks good, get yourself down to the Boystown or Gay Village and just look at what the guys are wearing and how they are wearing their facial hair. A gay friend once correctly told me that whatever is trendy in Boystown will be mainstream about a year or so later.
Look at some style web sites for men. Evaluate what looks good on your body type including colours and patterns.
If you don't know, ask people who do. There are tons of very fashionable people who work in retail who love to give advice-and many do not work on commission. You can browse through stores and get advice at no cost.
Ask people who look good where they bought their clothes. I am constantly stopping strangers and asking where they got stuff. And I compliment them on how they look-men and women, not as a come on, just because people who radiate style and confidence ought to be recognized and celebrated.
Men also have to be aware of posture and the tone and tenor of their voice.
And generally, if the person you are getting advice from does not look good, just forget everything they have said.
If they only talk the talk, but don't walk the walk FUGGETABOUTIT.
Wear not the ponus (long hair on bald man).
Of course, I am merely an opinionated Jew mom person from the suburbs, but I'm generally told that I'm aging rather well (and not by by parents) so listen to me or not! This is free, unsolicited advice after all, people!